HOW TABOO TALK BEGAN

I realized that I had a gift for setting a nonjudgmental atmosphere where women and men could talk openly about sex, love and relationships.

 

Everybody has a story. Actually, everybody has dozens of stories to tell. Here's one of mine. The year was 2004 and I was at a book signing for one of my client's (author Yonder) when a woman who had just purchased a book asked me a very personal question about her marriage. She asked if the fact that her husband refused her spontaneous sexual advances, when he walked in the door from work, meant that he was cheating on her. Well being that I'm a comedian by nature, and profession at times, and that I have no filter when talking honestly about relationships... I told her:
1. I didn't know any men who pass on sexual favors and 2. Did she always try to jump his bones at the front door after work?

After we laughed a bit I said to her "Maybe he had something on his mind?." She looked confused at the fact that he could be thinking about anything other than sex at that time. I continued and said, "You know when a man leaves work...he's still at work in his mind, right?"
My comment started a 90 minute conversation about adult relationships, love and sex, in the middle of a mall, on a Saturday afternoon, that went from 2 people...to 3 to 6...
Other women bought books and fell right into the conversation. The only part that shocked and confused me was that, prior to this, I thought women talked to their besties and bffs about these topics. But I was quickly informed that some women don't trust their friends with their relationship questions especially concerning intimacy and sex. 

I guess because we were two men peddling Erotic Fiction books in the middle of a busy mall, this seemed like the perfect time to ask her very personal relationship question.

 

That day, I stepped back and looked at what was happening. I saw everyone excited about talking openly and honestly totally oblivious to where they were or who would overhear their explicit conversations. So I asked my partner about the idea of changing the not-so-normal book signing into a more private open-talk forum with food, drink and his book include in the price. He said "Sure!" and the next week we started doing our Taboo Talk events. We started in the back of a book store with 12 people and in a short time we were in a ballroom in front of 1200 people.

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I realized that I had a gift for setting a nonjudgmental atmosphere where women and men could talk openly about sex, love and relationships. With my improvisational comedy skills, years of studying people, and loving to talk about relationships. . . I had found my niche!

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My mission: To help men and women communicate better in love

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After almost two decades of touring around the country and talking to thousands people of every age, race, religion, culture and lifestyle, I've come to realize we're pretty much the same when it comes to our relationships. Women and men actually think about the same things we just process and communicate them differently.

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I am truly blessed to have the opportunity to talk to so many beautiful souls who just want to be heard and loved. It is my privilege to be an instrument of love and understanding. And to let you know that you're not alone. We all get crazy about love.